Sometimes you can't work through things on your own. Going to a professional can be helpful in putting your relationship back on track. For instance, Prescott helps partners recognize the dysfunctional patterns that keep the reactive dynamic in place. "Couples therapy can be so helpful when partners are having issues around communication," Prescott says. "The therapist is able to hold the partner that's emotionally reactive accountable and allow room for change with the support of the other partner." They can also help you figure out the root cause of the reactive behavior.
It's important to remember that you can't control or change how your partner is. The only thing you can do is focus on yourself. If your partner is emotionally reactive, these are some things you can do. But if things become abusive, it may be time to exit the situation.
Experts
Michelle Henderson, licensed mental health counselor, owner of Next Chapter Counseling
Danielle Bayard Jackson, certified women's coach, author of Give It a Rest: The Case for Tough-Love Friendships
Meredith Prescott, New York City-based psychotherapist who specializes in relationships
Christine Scott-Hudson, licensed psychotherapist, owner of Create Your Life Studio
Alonna Donovan Makinson, relationship counselor, owner of Life Tree Counseling, LLC
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